Jun. 14th, 2018

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ENDLESS LIST OF MY FAVORITE CREATIVE WORKS: IT
What can be done when you’re eleven can often never be done again.
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I think about you all the time - (Killing Eve)
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lube gets talked about as if it’s just some thing that will make sexual acts more pleasurable (which is valid and true) but i didn’t learn until like, last week that it’s also just as important as condoms from a public health perspective. 

you reduce your chances of getting/giving STDs by a lot when you use lube (even without a condom/dental dam/finger cot/etc) because it lessens the chances of developing microtears (little cuts on your genitals/mouth) during sex acts that open up ports of entry for the exchange of diseases. 

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If you’re an adult, do the stuff you couldn’t as a kid.

Like, me and my sister went to a museum, and they had an extra exhibit of butterflies. But it cost £3. So we sighed, walked past, then stopped. We each had £3. We could see the butterflies. And we did it was great. We followed it up with an ice-cream as well because Mum and Dad weren’t there to say no.

I was driving back from a work trip with 2 other people in their early 20s, and we drove past a MacDonalds. One of the others went “Aww man, I’d love a McFlurry.” And the guy driving pulled in to the drive through. It was wild. But it was great.

I went to a park over the weekend and I was thinking “Man, I’d love to hire one of those bikes and cycle round the park.” It took me a few minutes to go “Wait, I can hire one of those bikes!”

I guess what I’m saying is, those impulsive things you wanted to do as a kid - see the dinosaur exhibit, play in the fountains with the other kids, lie in the shade for 2 hours - you can do when you’re an adult. You have to deal with a whole lot of other bull, but at least you can indulge your inner 8 year-old.
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get to know me meme: 1/5 favourite male characters »  steve rogers

         i don’t want to kill anyone. i don’t like bullies; i don’t care where they’re from
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“As readers, we remain in the nursery stage so long as we cannot distinguish between taste and judgment, so long, that is, as the only possible verdicts we can pass on a book are two: this I like; this I don’t like. For an adult reader, the possible verdicts are five: I can see this is good and I like it; I can see this is good but I don’t like it; I can see this is good and, though at present I don’t like it, I believe that with perseverance I shall come to like it; I can see that this is trash but I like it; I can see that this is trash and I don’t like it.”

— W.H. Auden
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“I can see that this is trash but I like it” constant mood

There’s a sixth, which I have had a few times:  “I recognize that I dislike this too intensely to judge whether or not it is good.”  ( … and come to think of it, I’ve definitely also had the reaction of “This is a work of tremendous skill and craft, and I have no idea if I liked it or not.”  I suppose that’s a variation on the third.)

You can also always go with “I like/dislike this and I don’t feel any particular need to assess its quality”, because distinguishing between taste and judgment doesn’t require you to constantly use both – only to recognize which one you’re using at any given time.

I’ve definitely experienced “I like this too much to fairly judge whether it is good,” as well.

haha that Auden what a nerd
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some thoughts:: you need to try things out. if you’re not sure what you want to do with your life, just try something. maybe you like yoga. or rock collecting. or playing video games for hours and hours. cool. make that work to your advantage. film a video of your yoga techniques, or explaining your rock collection. you may be able to attract an audience who likes those things as well. take courses in video game design. apply for an internship or ask to volunteer at a museum that does research in rocks and fossils, or at companies that produce video games.

or maybe you’re not sure about what you really like. that’s okay too. try something. find a course in coding. you may find that you like building things. eventually you can search for a job in tech. buy a cheap, used guitar. you may find that you love playing. eventually you can find a local community group that plays music and ask to join them. you may make connections there that can lead you to a cool job in the music industry.

see what I’m saying? you just need to try things. I saw a quote once that says something like “don’t wait for inspiration - it will come to you while you’re working”.
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“Old friend” either means an elderly dog or an individual of the same gender with whom you have been secretly in love for more than a decade. There are no other possible interpretations.

This is blatant archenemy erasure and I won’t stand for it

What about both?
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A tweet that reads “just a quick reminder that a society exists to serve the people within it. there’s no such thing as a person being ‘useless’ to a society, only a society that is useless to a person”
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Them: I love romantic girls!

Me: Oh, you misunderstand- I’m a Romantic girl. I’m only interested in ghosts, Nature, and how the Industrial Revolution is crippling my spirit.
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“Tom, if you could play only one Shakespeare character for the rest of your life, who would it be?”
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anonymous said:

Ok, this is going to be a controversial one, but her me out: do you think it’s a bit weird that so many women in the fandom (most of them straight or bi) only show interest in mlm ships? I know on a personal level everybody has their reasons and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with liking mlm in any sense, but for so many women to only relate to relationships where they aren’t represented is a bit… weird. Not to mention knee-jerk reactions to any mlf pairing 🤔

This is far from a controversial question. People have been mystified that transformative fandom - primarily made up of women* - is ‘only’ interested in mlm for as long as transformative fandom has been a recognized phenomenon.

A caveat for the terminology in this post: as society at large tends to forget/ignore/reject the gender spectrum and transgender people, ‘male/men’ = characters referred to with male pronouns in canon and ‘female/women’ = characters referred to with female pronouns. (NB/agender/genderqueer people don’t come up, unfortunately.)

So first let me point out that transformative fandom is not only on AO3/tumblr. AO3 stats in particular give a very skewed idea of what fandom focuses on. Both ff.net and wattpad - fanfic archives which dwarf AO3 - have far higher ratios of m/f (to m/m) fic than mlm-focused AO3: ff.net is about 50/50 and has more genfic (no pairings) while wattpad features lots of m/f fic, often in the form of (male)character/(female)reader stories.

In other words, Fanworks are NOT mostly mlm; it’s just likely that we tend to notice m/m more than m/f because m/f is the ‘default’ - unmarked, and thus overlooked.

secondly, while you’ve lumped straight and bisexual women together in your ask, if you separate straight and bisexual fandom participants you get an interesting picture in regards to the typical ‘straight women are the biggest m/m fans’ common wisdom:

In a 2013 survey of AO3 users*, heterosexual female respondents were slightly less likely to be both readers and creators of M/M works - 87% were readers, compared to 90% overall, and 32-33% were creators, compared to 40% overall.

according to a variety of smaller, previous polls on various sites, the majority of m/m (and f/f) fans identify as queer (and based on a thorough dissertation pending, the stats are about 50/50 ‘mostly straight’/’mostly non-straight’).

Now with those caveats out of the way … why is mlm popular in a space that is primarily dominated by women**? I honestly don’t think this can be truly quantified. the reasons vary from person to person too greatly. But there’s a lot of theories and a lot of anecdotal evidence for those theories. Here’s some of them, in no particular order:

it’s male privilege (sexism/misogyny). 

Male privilege: Male societal privilege and and bias feeds into media bias. media is heavily male-dominated (more male characters, usually played by cis men where actors are called for, with more central/leading roles and more screentime). Even conversations between female characters tend to focus on the male characters. The media bias then itself contributes back to societal bias - and fandom bias - towards seeing men/male characters as more interesting, more dynamic, and more varied than women/female characters.

Flip side: societal bias towards men leads directly to a relative lack of interest in women/female characters. they have less screentime, less interaction with one another, and are less centralized by the plot. Their stories are more likely to revolve around a male character in the cast. And when they do get the same treatment as male characters, audiences are very hard on them.

it’s simply a function of statistics. the overrepresentation of male characters compared to female characters has a natural consequence. If you do the math, that exponentially increases the odds of a mlm ship being fanned over compared to an m/f or wlw ship.

it’s also an observable phenomenon across multiple character demographics.

in addition to having more roles, relationships between masc characters are often where the emotional heart of a story lies. people tend to ping on that in and create fan content for it.

it’s because fanworks are a function of wish fulfillment, taking various forms:

straight women, being sexually attracted to men, consume mlm (nsfw) fanworks for the same reason straight men might consume wlw porn: double the eye candy. (the fact that straight women are actually less likely to consume or create mlm fanfic than non-straight women suggests this may not be as prevalent as often assumed.)

non-straight characters are still incredibly uncommon in mass media; transformative fandom, which is mostly non-straight, creates their own representation (perhaps with bias towards the characters with more emotional connection in canon.)

non-straight relationships are even less common than non-straight characters, and are unlikely to get much canon focus if they do exist. fandom fills this gap. (conversely, m/f pairings are far more likely to receive canon fulfillment and canon focus, so there’s less need to create fan content for it.)

(white cis) male bodies are both more common in (western) mass media and ‘unmarked’. like m/f pairings, white cis males are perceived as ‘default’ due to white/cis/male privilege. If racism, transphobia, and sexism weren’t enough on their own to increase content about pairings between characters of that description, that privilege also means that fictional characters of this description are the least likely to be seen as needing protection by policing elements in fandom, increasing the free rein on content creation. thus: fandom produces more mlm fanworks despite being fannish over m/f and f/f ships as well, which increases content obscurity, which increases free rein, which increases content creation, etc.

relatedly: women’s stories/sexuality is too fraught. male privilege/internalized misogyny leads directly to women’s stories and afab bodies being politicized.   some afab people have hangups about fictional representations of themselves in nsfw content, being uncomfortable with portrayals of people like themselves in fiction, and even sickened by depictions of pleasure experienced by bodies with vaginas (particularly in f/f works). mlm stories create enough distance for women to enjoy it without distraction by concerns of misogyny or fear of something hitting too close to home in the experience (and cis mlm nsfw content in particular provides a safe space for afab people who are bothered by depictions of afab pleasure for whatever reason). 

it’s an outlet for afab people discovering they are not straight or not cis. they may still identify as a ‘cishet woman’, but they are consuming mlm works because it resonates with a part of them that they haven’t consciously recognized.

In conclusion: at first glance it might seem weird that fandom seems to spend a lot of time on mlm, but this is both not entirely true and (where it is true) there are many, many reasons for it.

I’ve spent 8 hours compiling links and piecing together this post now so that you can have a comprehensive guide to the reasons that parts of fandom seem to be dominated by mlm stories, so I’m going to wrap up now. For more fanwork statistics, try these links:

AO3 Ship Stats Masterpost by @centrumlumina​

ToastyStats tag on @destinationtoast​

For more analysis on why mlm is popular (and wlw not so much), try these links:

Why is there so much slash on AO3?

Why mlm? (and some of the responses)

Femslash and Fandom

Femslash Can Save the World if We Let it

and this essay briefly sums up the migration of online transformative fandom over the last 15 years or so, giving context to AO3 fic stats.

One final note: the comparative prevalence of mlm to wlw would suggest that male privilege and bias is primary motivation for its popularity, but wlw was not always so scarce as it seems to be now. Just as you might expect, shows with a mostly-female cast had massive amounts of wlw content: sailor moon, utena, etc. But there’s reason to believe that purity culture has stifled wlw popularity, and that’s a damn shame.

*The largest fandom demographic survey from a reputable source (that I am aware of) was based on AO3 users, advertised primarily via Tumblr, and analyzed by @centrumlumina​ in 2013. I’m pulling my stats from this survey, but be aware it has significant limitations.

**in my personal experience, many of those in fandom who identify as women are cis women, but also many of those in fandom who do not identify as women are afab/were socialized as a woman before identifying differently. However, I don’t currently have survey data to back this up.

wow, tumblr completely fucked up the points on this post. it’s been edited now; if you reblogged this, please check the original post again! ( @shironeedshisspace @apples-and-pie )

“Ok, this is going to be a controversial one, but her me out: do you think it’s a bit weird that so many women in the fandom (most of them straight or bi) only show interest in mlm ships?”

It’s 2017 and people are still going ‘but WHY do women like slash? It’s so weird! We need an explanation!’

This discussion has been going since before AO3 was even in a glint in Astolat’s et al eye.

Fanlore has an interesting article on Why Slash? with some of the meta going back to the late 90s. I’m sure that meta writers from the 1980s wrote ‘but why slash?’ in fanzines, and that there was Why Slash meta on Usenet.

One thing that bothers me about the Why Slash? question and how it keeps popping up is the following:

Why is it never the other way around?

How much has been written about why straight guys like girl-on-girl porn? How many people go ‘Wow, it’s so weird that straight guys like girl-on-girl porn, it would make much more sense for them to be into guy-on-girl porn! Why should they be into relationships where they aren’t represented?’

No, we just accept that a lot straight guys who like watching porn are likely to be into girl-on-girl porn. We accept that a lot of straight guys find the idea of a girl kissing another girl to be hot.

So, next time anyone’s wondering about why women like slash, do yourself a favour and a) use google and fanlore and fanhistory to find the shitloads of meta that has been written about it already and b) wonder why you care so much.

(Also, if you feel that everyone hates M/F ships and is only into M/M, consider that MAYBE that has to do with the fandoms you hang out in and your own fandom friends! There are plenty of fandoms that are dominated by M/F fics, and indeed fandoms dominated by F/F fics.)

More good points.

Here’s the thing: I went through the trouble of spending 8 hours compiling links and explaining reasons for this because this question and phenomenon is well-documented … and there’s danger we’ll forget the answers that already exist.

We’re currently seeing a trend towards calling women/afab fans of fictional mlm ‘fujoshi’ as an insult. saying they’re ‘fetishizing mlm’. complaints that they want it ‘too heteronormative’ (echoing m/f dynamics). that it’s purely misogynistic self-hate and compulsive heterosexuality that’s driving the interest. That they want to punish gay men with darkfic about them. That it’s purely masturbatipn material (and that’s bad). That mlm fandom is harmful to both real mlm and the women who consume it.

These are severe, self-flogging misrepresentations of fandom mlm and this post was written to act as a counterpoint to the nasty things that are being said about non-male mlm fans.

I do want this post spread. I want people to know. I want them to see the major mlm fanwork talking points of just 4 years ago, in 2013, and use them as a reference point, as the voices of those above rise in pitch and volume.

You’re allowed to like fictional mlm even if you are not mlm yourself, and your reasons are your own.
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